Friendship

"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

A two post day! God has really downloaded some stuff into me today. It's amazing the things God uses to teach us things. A revelation about forgiveness can lead to getting a new understanding of friendships.


God has a way of putting people in your life for a season a a few if your lucky for a lifetime. I have come to realise that even if they are going to be there forever it doesn't mean they will always play the same part in your life. Getting married changes your friendships and so does having kids. The last I learned recently.

Having twin boys was the most wonderful most difficult thing I have ever done in my life. My husband would agree. When things slowed down after the boys were born I felt like I woke up one morning and had no friends. I know it is pretty normal to feel isolated after having a child especially when you go from working to being a stay at home mom. I felt abandoned for, a while so surprised that my friends (the few I had) were so distant. Granted some of that was the enemy telling me that no on wanted to be around the mama with twins.

It took a while, but the Lord helped me cultivate new friendships and I have grown so much spiritually and emotionally. It also forced me to rely on my husband more which is something I desperately needed to learn to do. Thank the Lord I have such a patient husband willing to listen to me!

Something that took me a while was to forgive and understand why friends were so distant. It seems like things changed so suddenly out of the blue and I was hurt. But now I understand. God uses things like this to change us. We need change in our lives to grow. I don't know that I would be in the place that I am right now spiritually or have the freedom I have if I wasn't forced to do things different. If i hadn't found myself lonely would I have ever connected with some amazing women of God? Would my marriage be as good as it is now with my husband and I closer than ever before if nothing had changed?

Talking to a friend today I realized that God has been working in her just as much as He has been working in me. Neither of us really know why things got so distant but we both know it was good for us. God always has a plan for things. I often forget he's always at least two steps ahead of me and He knows what it looks like at the end. The Word says
"And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28
It's something I need to remember.